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  • Kurt Brindley 8:56 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , childhood trauma, humility, , Lurch, , short people, tagging, , tall people, , , ,   



    I always hated playing Tag as a kid – I was just too slow. I could never catch any of the faster kids, who just happened to be all the other kids but me. Consequently, once someone tagged me and I was “it,” it meant that I was really it and the game was basically over.

    Less the teasing and the taunts…

    Gawd I hated being slow as a kid.

    Almost as much as I hated being tall and skinny…

    I probably could have benefited from a therapy session or two back then to help me get over the emotional adolescent wounds I received from all the Tag trauma I had to suffer through.

    Once I got over all the skinny geeky awkward lumbering stage at around sixteen and started to fill out a bit, I didn’t mind being tall quite as much and eventually I accepted the fact that I was always going to be slow as a truck…going uphill…on an ice-covered street. But dang, having to endure all the grief and nicknames such as “Lurch” until that stage was finally over sure wasn’t very much fun.

    But you know what they say about all that kind of stuff…

    “Builds character.”

    Sure it does…

    Anyway… Enough about poor little ol’ me…

    Well, that’s not true…

    There can never be enough of that.

    Besides, once I realized I was pretty lucky to be tall and that it really didn’t matter how fast I could run, life became A-Okay.

    And then shortly after I learned to appreciate my height, I realized how cute you short people are when you get jealous…

    Which is practically all the time whenever you’re around us tall people.

    Anyway… Enough about you short people…

    For the longest time just hearing the word tag was enough to turn my stomach into knots and my feet into lead and make me wish the “Addams Family” had never been created.

    You raaaang…

    Until one day, not long after I joined the wonderful wacky world of WordPress, I realized that my fear of the word tag had finally come to pass.

    For to tag within the blogosphere, I learned, was a good thing.

    A very good thing…

    Instead of having to chase after people, people would come chasing after me; and by me I mean my blog and the things I post to it.

    Once I learned to effectively tag my posts, I found that I became it not in a bad way that always brought ridicule down upon me, but it in a good way, as in, “Hey, Kurt (and by Kurt I mean Kurt’s, I mean, my blog (speaking in the third person becomes habit-forming fast)) is hip and cool and if you ain’t there you must be square.”

    Yeah, once I started effectively tagging my posts I/my blog became it in a very good way.

    And the good news is, if you effectively tag your posts you, too, can become it in a very good way…or at least in a better way than before when you were not effectively tagging your posts.

    And the reason is because WordPress pulls the tags from every post by every WordPress blogger (and there are millions of us!) and feeds them all into its WordPress Reader. And assuming that a fair share of the millions of us WordPress bloggers are also WordPress Reader readers, the chance that your effectively tagged post will be seen by more feeder readers than had it not been tagged effectively is pretty good.


    Anyway, some of the more popular tags I have found are “Writing,” “Poetry,” “Photography,” and “Art.” Chances are pretty good that you’ll see at least one of these in my tag list regardless the post. And then, depending on the context of the post, you can get more specific with your tags with key words and phrases such as “short stories,” “flash fiction,” “landscapes,” “nature photography,” “graphic art,” “drawings,” and on and on with whatever key words and phrases may fit your needs.

    But a word of caution…

    As in most aspects of life, too much of a good thing can become a bad thing.

    You can tag your post with as many key words as you like, but if you have more than fifteen, WordPress will penalize the post by not showing it in any of its Reader feeds.

    Another thing to keep in mind when considering what fifteen (or less) key words/phrases you want to tag your post with…

    Category words and phrases are also included in that limit of fifteen.

    The way I like to manage my posts are to identify one broad category word for the post, which can be thought of as a chapter heading of sort, and then fourteen tags, which can be thought of as an index of sort.

    But how you want to tag and categorize your posts is obviously up to you. I just recommend picking the best key words from the post and to study the WordPress reader to find what tags are getting the most traffic and try to include those into your posts, if applicable.

    I would discourage, as would many within the blogosphere, spamming your post with tags. And by that I mean including tags in your post that do not truly represent what your post is about.

    To me spam tagging a post is like false advertising. It might work to draw readers in once or twice but after it’s been realized that your post has nothing to do with the tags you’re using, your blogging street cred will vanish, as will any traffic to your site.

    The all knowing Google will tell you all you need to know about how to effectively tag your posts so go explore and bone up on it if you feel so compelled.

    Just remember… no more than a total of fifteen tags and categories in one post.

    If you remember that, along with learning how to effectively tag your posts, you too can become an it blogger.

    And by it I mean cool…

    And popular…

    Even if you are as slow as Lurch from Addams Family.

    Or as short as Cousin It…

    See what I just did there?

    Cousin It…as in it

    Get it?

    Ah, you short people are so cute.

    • kbailey374 9:14 pm on February 17, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      I think if we’d all had therapy back then, we’d all be less of a mess. Altho according to my son that is not true (poor child) … Anyway – I was the slow SHORT kid who played tag. And I do have some confusion about tags and categories. So thank you for the info!

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    • mojoshawn 9:22 pm on February 17, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Reblogged this on mojoshawn and commented:
      Great tips from Kurt at https://kurtbrindley.com/ regarding how to effectively apply #tags to your posts to help other WordPress readers find you. Check out Kurt’s site for other excellent writings, poems, and art!

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    • mojoshawn 9:22 pm on February 17, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Reblogged with “Great tips from Kurt at https://kurtbrindley.com/ regarding how to effectively apply #tags to your posts to help other WordPress readers find you. Check out Kurt’s site for other excellent writings, poems, and art!” Now to go check out my tagging! Thanks, Kurt!

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      • Kurt Brindley 9:25 pm on February 17, 2015 Permalink | Reply



        • mojoshawn 7:29 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

          I dropped this comment, “DUDE! I enjoy how well you build anticipation. I reblogged a post regarding #tags from Kurt at kurtbindley.com . Check it out, it has already helped me. Also, ye shall diggeth Master Kurt’s website..oh yes…ye shall.” on this blog https://wearetheryan.wordpress.com/ . I think you may enjoy his writing. Have a good day, my Brother!

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        • mojoshawn 7:31 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

          Oops..I corrected to kurtbrindley.com on his site…sorry.

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    • Suzanne Costigan 9:34 pm on February 17, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Great post, Kurt. Appreciate the tips and the excellent humour surrounding them! :)

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      • Kurt Brindley 10:14 pm on February 17, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        Awesome. Thanks so much for taking the time to leave me such nice feedback, Suzanne. I really appreciate it.


    • Aimer Boyz 9:42 pm on February 17, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Nice post. Coming full circle from a kid’s game to a blog post, very impressive bit of word play.

      Tagging my posts correctly is definitely something I have to work on.

      Oh, and while I’m happy you learned to appreciate your height, (we may as well enjoy the only body we have), not all short people are jealous :)

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      • Kurt Brindley 10:15 pm on February 17, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        Thank you for the nice comment, my friend. I hope the tip proves helpful. As for all the other stuff…all in good fun. :)

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    • REDdog 10:34 pm on February 17, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      On the flip side, if you rarely use categories and never use tags (like me) you limit the troll count to zero, unless you count those very few readers who accidentally stumble across your site and then you piss them off somehow. Which reminds me Kurt, how DID you find all those months ago?

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      • Kurt Brindley 10:34 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        Trolls concern me not… re: my do not moderate me pro tip. As for how I found you? Must have been via the Reader feeder and most likely for one of the main tags I listed in the post. To be honest, I used to follow just about everyone, a la the pro blogger approach, but recently WordPress began cracking down on that for whatever reason I surely don ‘t know. Regardless how, happy to have found you, my friend.

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    • Priyanki 10:38 pm on February 17, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      You’re Simply Amazing & so are the tips. Thanks Always. :)

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    • Penticular 10:52 pm on February 17, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Thanks for the tip, Tag you are it ! TC/Dave

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    • hong kong fong 1:19 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Great to know, thanks for the tip!

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    • andysmerdon 1:34 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Cheers Kurt :)

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      • Kurt Brindley 10:45 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        Thanks for the motivation, my friend. Been dragging my heels on this one for a while.


    • lightwalker1 1:34 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      I have nominated you and your blog for the Versatile Bloggers Award. I have enjoyed my visits to your site and hope others will too. You can view the nomination and the award criteria here. https://lightwalker1.wordpress.com/2015/02/17/versatile-blogger-award/ In love and light Cheryle

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      • Kurt Brindley 10:47 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        I’m happy to hear you’ve found some enjoyment here, lightwalker1. I appreciate you taking the time to let me know. Thank you.

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    • Yoshiko 2:22 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Even I am slow too

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    • Robert Jepson 2:34 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Great advice Kurt, thanks! :)

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      • Kurt Brindley 10:50 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        Thanks to your feedback on the other post I finally got the gumption to get this out there. Much appreciated, Robert.

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    • lucyserah 2:45 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      hahaha,,humorous read…thanks for the advice:)

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    • waternymph88 2:47 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Thank you! Had no idea about that 15 word thing.

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    • Mandy Moran 4:08 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Brilliant advice and blog, l knew not too many but probably in total of tags and categories using more than fifteen. Ill try less categories in the future.
      I was tall and hated it too. :)

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    • Mandy Moran 4:10 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Reblogged this on Skin Deep ~ Mandy Moran and commented:
      Great blog and advice on tagging your posts for most effectiveness.

      Originally by Kurt Brindley

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    • merrildsmith 7:35 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Good post–and helpful tips. Thanks!
      –From one of those cute short people (married to a tall one).

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    • anorthhare 8:45 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      I hated tag too, for much the same reason, I was the slow one (although that doesn’t matter anymore, because I’m an adult I suppose). Thanks for this post, I was actually wondering how to get my blog out there more, I always think of the tags as a second thought to the content of the blog post but they really are important. You’re marketing yourself and you have to do that effectively. Also, I always tagged my Youtube vidoes with Justin Bieber because I thought that would generate traffic, even though they have nothing to do with him. Your posts are really great!

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      • Kurt Brindley 11:18 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        Exactly right. Tags are very important and I have more to say about them…but we’ll save that for another tip. Hope you find some value out of this one, anorthhare. I really appreciate your kind, encouraging feedback.

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    • Sean Mungin 9:47 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Thanks for the suggestions. I’m in the middle of trying to find out what works best for me. So perfect timing.

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    • k. andrews 9:53 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Very fun, and funny, and quite edifying! Thanks for the tag talk

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    • http://theenglishprofessoratlarge.com 10:54 am on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Thanks for all the tips. I’m sure a lot of us can benefit by them. I’m reading your “Poems From The River” on my Kindle and thoroughly enjoying them. I recommend them to all the rest of your fellow bloggers.

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    • leeduigon 3:03 pm on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      I’m trying’, boss, I’m tryin’!
      By the way, I was always tall–until I started playing basketball, whereupon I became short. “Tall” is only relative to the people who are around you.

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      • Kurt Brindley 5:35 pm on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        Ha ha…thank you for providing me with the proper motivation to finally get this post out there, my friend.


    • Lorna's Voice 3:58 pm on February 19, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Good tip. I read somewhere that no more than 10 tags is best.


    • purplestoneblog 8:41 pm on April 1, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Thank You, thank you, thank you. I have just recently ‘got it’ about tags & categories, yet you have made it clear and sensible. Your post will be shared with my writing group who is just beginning to write blogs.


    • Hippie Cahier 8:46 pm on April 1, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Interesting! I haven’t learned anything new about WP in a while. I didn’t know there was a limit, but that makes sense. Groovy.


    • K'lee L. 8:47 pm on April 1, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Great post, Kurt! Makes me remember how I was the ‘shy kid’ and also not so tall until about sixteen… these days I’m six, two with a laugh and singing voice you’d probably hear across town on a still nght… and me in the mood for beltin’ it out!


    • avwalters 9:27 pm on April 1, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Okay, so I’m short. What of it. I actually think I’m more medium, which sure beats being tall, which is just a waste of calories. And I never could figure out the difference between a tag and a category. But now I know to keep it under 15, and then I’ll never have trouble.


    • DisasterDavis 10:40 pm on September 20, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      What a fantastic way to write a helpful and informative post, by combining it with humour! I really enjoyed this and I didn’t know about the 15 category and tags thing, either, thank you for sharing!

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      • Kurt Brindley 3:23 pm on September 21, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        Thank you. I’m happy you enjoyed it and found some value as well. Been mulling over a new PT… guess it’s about time. :)

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  • Kurt Brindley 11:17 am on December 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , Beta Readers, , , , , , , , , text to speech, , , yakitome   



    Even though I have had two or three “PRO” Tips lined up in draft form for quite a while now, I feel compelled to get this one out before them, even though (Hmm, how ’bout that – two “even thoughs” in one sentence. If this redundant redundancy offends you, please submit your redundant complaints about the excessive redundancy in the sentence with the redundancy to my Department of Redundancy Department.) the motivation to write it overcame me after reading the comments to Leave it to me, a poem I recently published.

    Now, I’m not going to discuss what the poem means to me (Hint: Insight to what the poem, or anything I publish here, just may mean to me can be gleaned from how I how I tagged it. (Confession: “The Essence of Tagging” is one of the “Pro” Tips lined up on deck.)) because – and my apologies for getting all Eddie Vedder on you here but… (More …)

    • Jassie 11:24 pm on December 13, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Reblogged this on International Book Promotion.

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    • PaulXylinides, May the mermaids sing to you ... 12:50 am on December 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Thanks for the whatever, Kurt – I am at that sometimes serene point in my life where I laugh at both abuse and compliments, as I suspect you are. I actually don’t much like reading Wordsworth but “Intimations” has always moved me and I don’t feel I need to recall the actual poem as I understand it to be an expansion upon the title – correct me if I’m wrong now that I’ve caused you to do your homework. In any event another way to look at my response to your very moving poem would be in terms of the perspective of the great 20th century spiritual teacher Krishnamurti, who held that when the human mind ceases its relentless time-bound activity spiritual knowledge – or the unknown – enters. It seems to me that there are parallels here to Wordsworth’s position – that we come from an immortal state whose recollection would hold promise for the same beyond mortal conditions. I suppose one could go on and on which is usually a good time to stop. Cheers!

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      • Kurt Brindley 11:11 am on December 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Yeah, I’ve been fascinated with this ever since I was a child. Of course then the fascination was natural and undefined. But the act of letting go, zoning out, the falling away, to me, is most closely articulated by the zen concept of mu. Thee is a poem in my book called Step Into the Grass that I think best expresses my “feel” of all this. Thanks for the knowledge, brother.


    • fwhitaker 4:34 am on December 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Good idea – I’ve bookmarked Yakittome for later use. I also downloaded your free poetry collection. I look forward to reading it!

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    • Gravis Kartweeler 8:49 am on December 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Great tip Kurt. I use the speak feature on my Apple devices for this exact purpose. What a great tool it is. Nothing will tell you where to put, or remove, punctuation faster. I don’t use the voices with British, Irish or South African accents though (yes, they offer South African). My stuff is too American – it just sounds wrong coming from more ‘proper’ accents ;)

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      • Kurt Brindley 11:23 am on December 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Ha ha… Yeah, I usually use a man with an American style of speech. Audrey is used mostly for poetry and whatnot, and for comedic effect for this post. :)

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    • Tijani 9:22 am on December 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Great tip Kurt as always:-)

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    • Carl D'Agostino 8:03 pm on December 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Good read. Thanks visit my blog.

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    • Michael 9:04 pm on December 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      After a small miracle, managed to figure out how to get the Kindled poems onto the glowing tablet, and am very glad I did. Your writing is wonderful. Thanks for sharing…


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      • Kurt Brindley 9:57 am on December 17, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        I’m so glad you did, too. Thank you very much for your interest, Michael; and also for taking the time to provide me your very kind and valuable feedback. I really appreciate it.

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    • Rob McShane 2:11 am on December 16, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Great advice – all if it (the eye of the beholder! Actually leans to quantum physics now! Aaah…art and science becoming one!) Many thanks Kurt!

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  • Kurt Brindley 12:01 am on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , , gravatars, , , , , profiles, , ,   


    Short version – No.

    Less short version – A big fat ontological and/or (your choice) existential, HAYULL NO!

    Look, Poet (and by Poet I mean it to include all Writers and all Artists and all Photographers and all Tree House Interior Designers and all…heck, I guess to me a Poet is just about any daydreaming Creator of the Sublime one could possibly imagine, regardless the flavor) I don’t mean to wax philosophical on your poetically waxing arse, but in my world (which, in my world, is the only world that really matters), if you’re more than two clicks of the mouse away from me, then you, my insecure little dream drawer, are dead to me.

    Wait, if you don’t exist to begin with, then is it still possible for you to be dead to me?

    Oh boy*, this philosophical stuff can get philosophically fuzzy real fast…

    So, what do you say we just take a quick sidestep around that descartianly dangerous detour we were about to head down…

    Besides, it just wouldn’t be rational within the context of me trying to save and secure your irrationally insecure existence within the existence of my irrationally insecure world, which, I believe I already indicated most redundantly, is the only world that really matters.

    Oh boy*…

    So anyway, back to the safety of my shallow point of a “Pro” Tip, if I have to go even slightly out of my way to find you…


    Just like that you disappear.

    Look, for me, and by me I mean us, at least those of us who are out there, and by there I mostly mean in the WordPress Reader, practically 24/7 pounding the pavement and beating the bushes (Coming soon, my next confessional: If I could marry a Cliche I would) looking to be swept off our creative-seeking feet by you and all those Poets who wanna be like you…

    But in order for you to be able to sweep me off my creative-seeking feet, I first must be able to recognize your existence, which means you need to be right there next to me, present and accounted for, ready to welcome me to your domain at a moment’s notice, night or day, rain or shine…(ah, my sexy and ubiquitous little cliches, where would I be without thee? Well, for starters, I just might be properly agented and published, perhaps…sigh)

    (J/k…agents and publishers are for sissies)




    As long as I’m in the WP Reader, it’s all good for the most part.

    In there, I can find you and, if you compel me to do so, there are multiple links within the Reader that I can click that will bring me right like rain into your poetic domain.

    Easy enough…

    But finding you in the WP Reader is all a matter of luck. Posts are flowing fast through that stream, especially in the “Writing” tag where I mostly hang out.

    I’d say chances of me finding you there within all that fanciful flotsam are pretty thin.

    I guess I could find you if I were fortunate enough for you to find me first.

    And now we’re starting to get closer to the quickly dulling point of this “Pro” Tip…

    But we’re still not there yet.

    Because even if you do visit my site the only way I’m going to know about it is if you “Like” or comment on one of my posts.

    And what are the chances of that happening?

    I’d say barely minimal if we were to take into account all the millions of WP Poets who are populating this proliferatingly populated planet.

    But let’s say, for the argument’s sake — and for the merciful sake of me finally getting to the seemingly forever elusive point of this “Pro” Tip — that you did find me and “Like” and/or comment on one of my posts…

    Then, yes, I would have proof of your existence in my Notification Archives, right?

    Right. Of course, right. And that’s great and all…

    At least for a short period of time.

    Because as new notifications come in, the older ones get pushed farther and farther back into the forsaken and forgotten dustbin of digital history until finally…

    You are “poof” no more…

    And that makes me sad.

    But, alas…

    Alas, finally, alas…

    Yay and hurrah, alas, we have finally arrived to the less than pointy tip of the Tip.

    Um, excuse me, would you mind waking up now?


    Alas, we have yet a tiny bit of evidence that may or may not prove that you do exist.

    We have, alas, your gravatar picture located at the bottom of the post, where the “Likes” tend to gather.

    And that, my patient Poet, is where I choose to go, prefer to go, to find you…


    It is from there, that point of positivism where the gravatar representation of you exists, where you and I can hopefully begin to build a long-term friendly and collaborative relationship…

    Or not…

    You know, I like being “Liked.”

    And I like to “Like” things that I like.

    So, I hear you asking, why not put those “Likes” that I like so much together to find new friends and collaborators?


    For me, that is the number one way that I like go about finding new friends and collaborators…by visiting the domains of those who were kind enough to visit my domain and “Like” one of my posts.

    If you “Like”or comment on one of my posts or pages, I can guarantee there will come a day that I will want to return the kindness.

    There will come the day when I will click on your gravatar photo and hope and pray like hayull to the Writing Gods that you have properly set up your Gravatar Account so I can find you, visit your domain of a website, and allow you to cast your creative magic of a spell all about me.

    Because I do…I really do…want to read your words or marvel at your photography and/or artwork in whatever form in which it may exist.

    I really really do.

    But, chances are pretty good that there is a pretty good chance I won’t be able to find you…

    Because, based upon my slightly more than casual observances, chances are pretty good that you haven’t fully…or even minimally…set up your gravatar profile.

    And that makes me sad.

    It makes me sad whenever I click on your profile to learn more about you and to ultimately visit your domain to like and to “Like” you, and when I get there I find, to my sad dismay, that you do not have your website linked there.

    What is a boy* to do?

    I mean, I could try doing a google search or try typing in your handle followed by .wordpress.com…

    And I have tried that on occasion…

    And on occasion it has worked.

    But let’s face it, mostly when I find myself at a gravatar profile that doesn’t, at a minimum, have a website linked to it…

    All I can do it back arrow my way back home, back to my domain…alone.

    And that’s pretty sad.


    So, to help keep me unsad, please please please go to gravatar.com, sign in with your WordPress.com account if you have one (and why wouldn’t you? all the cool people do…), create a new account if you don’t, and then set up your gravatar profile all proper-like so I can find you, and worship your creativity, and become happily unsad.

    And, I admit, there are quite a few steps involved in this process — so many that I am not even going to begin to list them all — so I can understand why so many of you Poets have accounts that lead me to No where…to No one…to your non-existence.

    But, I really believe that if you are serious about poeting seriously and getting your magic mojo in front of as many creative-seeking eyeballs as possibles, you really should invest the time and effort to set up a smoking hot gravatar profile.

    And even if you aren’t interested in doing all the work required to get your profile to the smokin’ hot level, then please please please, at minimum, at least, link your WordPress.com website to the profile. You can you at least, at a minimum, do that for me?

    Can’t you?


    Then, when I click on your gravatar image at the bottom of one of my posts I will find more than just your pretty gravatar face…

    I will find a link to your website…

    Thereby, I will find a link to you…

    And a way to validate your existence.


    Philosophical poetry…



    Here are a couple screenshots to give you an example of what’s involved in setting up your gravatar profile (click to enlarge)…


    Now, I don’t know if my gravatar profile is smoking’ hot or not but I do know I have done my darnedest to take advantage of all the Gravatar options possible to make it as tight and professional-looking as possible, and as easy as possible for you to find me…

    And by doing so, you, with your kindness and your favor, will validate my existence…

    And that truly makes me unsad.



    *non-gender specific



    • M-R 9:53 pm on November 3, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Definitely mad. No doubt about it. [grin]

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    • Laura L. 9:55 pm on November 3, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      First of all, THIS: “For me, that is the number one way that I like go about finding new friends and collaborators…by visiting the domains of those who were kind enough to visit my domain and “Like” one of my posts.

      If you “Like”or comment on one of my posts or pages, I can guarantee there will come a day that I will want to return the kindness.”

      That’s what I do. It is also the reason I’m not following 10,482.7 blogs. If I follow, I read. If I read I’ll comment or at least like, at least more than 50% of the time. I’m pushing the max now.

      And…oh…crap. I have a Gravatar. Kept meaning to fill out the profile but did I? :::scampers off to look::::

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      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 10:00 pm on November 3, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Well, I am sure glad I made the follow list (at least I hope I did). Glad to have you as a friend and collaborator, friend.

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        • Laura L. 10:33 pm on November 3, 2014 Permalink | Reply

          But of course. And after that amazing comment you left on my first story, I’ll be a fan grrrl forevah. (I’m so easy.) Thanks, for the Gravatar reminder. I did have one but I just spiffied it up a bit. I’m torn about putting an email addy there though. I have a bazillion gmail accounts (long story) so I suppose burning one wouldn’t be so bad but, ugh, spam and trolls. Any thoughts? I don’t need it on my blog for business purposes. It ain’t like anyone is going to hire me via the thing.


          • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 10:41 pm on November 3, 2014 Permalink | Reply

            Just put up a “Connect Page”..there is a “Add Contact Form” button in the edit box. People can still email you without having to divulge your address. The email address on my website is specifically for my writing so I don’t mind it being out there.

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    • sanseilife 12:09 am on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Hi Kurt thanks for the smile … Again!

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    • Timothy Price 12:29 am on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Somehow my “about” from my blog got on my gravatar page, but I don’t remember putting it there. Your 1500+ entertaining words of entertainment are 1500+ reasons why I don’t bother with things like gravatars. If it picks up my about info all on it’s own, great. But adding websites, and show casing of my art, ways to connect and all that? Forget it — it’s way too much trouble.

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    • creatyvebooks 1:00 am on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      So I read your post and I must say I think I confused the hell out of myself. I do have a Gravatar page but I don’t know if I did anything with it. Thanks for reminding me. Let’s see if I remember to update my profile. I forget all the time because of all the books that I’m reading. Anyways, thanks for the helpful tips.

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      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 8:34 am on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Well, if there ever was a perfect excuse for forgetting to do just about anything, that would be yours, because of all the books you are reading. :)


    • herdthinner 1:14 am on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I didn’t realize we could do anything with the Gravatar page. Nor do I know why it has to be maintained separately from the WP pages, but maybe that’s for WP’s FAQ or something.

      But thanks for the reminder to look at it and see that, oh! I guess there are some things to do?

      I could have sworn I had a general blurb about my account, but did not. I actually have three blogs/sites because they serve different purposes. Each of their home pages have links to the others, at least.

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      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 8:32 am on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Yeah, good questions. I guess it might be separate so others who do not have a wp account can also create a gravatar account. Just a guess though.

        So if you want, you can also link your 3 sites to your gravatar profile…or any other sites as well. I have my fb and my amazon author’s page linked.


    • sweetpea2love 7:26 am on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Super post.. I’ve found you .. now your quest is to locate me?? I hope I’ve set up my Gravatar properly… Take care and happy blogging to ya.

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    • Lorna's Voice 8:35 am on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      “Less short version?” You are the master of understatement! ;) After reading all of that, I am still stuck on one thing you said–if I don’t exist in your world, I don’t exist–I’m dead to you. How can that be? I’m here, ready for discovery. I know what you mean, kind of. Well, maybe I don’t. Just because I don’t see the elephants plodding across the Savannah, it doesn’t mean they don’t exist…Maybe I need to have another cup of tea… ;)


    • DotedOn 9:00 am on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Here is a temporary proof that I exist :)
      I have no idea if my blog is linked on the gravatar page or not… I’ll check… Thank you :)

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    • Carla Doria M. 10:20 am on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Hi, since I’m following you now, I think I should exist in your community of followers now ;)
      Thanks for now following and now “existing” in my blog :)

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    • Teresa 4:47 pm on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Well, I’m glad I have a gravatar, and I think it is linked properly, although it has been a while since I’ve tweaked it, so it could probably use an update. So, if your philosophy about the like button is correct and if other people also feel that way, then I guess I need to become a fan of the like button. I’ve used it some – mostly when I want to do a return visit to someone who has followed or liked my blog and I don’t want to follow, but I want to acknowledge that I am thankful for their visit. If I really like their blog and think that there is a modicum of a chance that I will read it occasionally, then I follow them. Unless they totally freak me out by the type of content they post, in which case I discreetly slip out the back door and only leave a like on their most positive post….of course, if they really creep me out, then I don’t even do that. I have noticed that some people, like yourself, will like comments as well, so I guess that is part of the deal? So, maybe I’ll rethink the whole like button issue as it may be more important than I had at first thought.
      While we are on the topic, sort of, how do you feel about people who follow you just hoping that you will follow them back and you know they never read your post? Especially, when you have barely hit the publish button and you receive a notification that they have liked or followed your blog. You know they haven’t had time to read the post, even if they are a speed reader. That bother’s me a little because, although I want as many followers as possible – don’t we all? – I really want them to read my stuff. I mean, not obsessively, but come on, if you follow me, shouldn’t it be because something I said resonated with you and you think you might enjoy reading once in a while?
      Ok off the soap box now. I’m going to go and like this post, so that you can find me if you want to. Oh, and if you want to follow, but I’m not really your cup of tea, just forget all that mumbo, jumbo I said, and feel free to follow ;) Oh wait…. you are following me! Yea! He likes me! :) You always have good tips and I like the way you wind them with your humor that makes me read with bated breath waiting for you to get to the point. Ok, I’m really going to shut up now – I’m in a really weird mood today….

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      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 7:44 pm on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Ha ha…wow. This comment of yours looks like one of my stream of consciousness posts…but much more awesomer. As far as the “Likes,” I say go with whatever works for you. It seems that I’m pretty much opposite of you, though. I will follow just about anyone but I am a bit more selective on what posts I “Like.” But to be honest, I don’t really put too much thought into it. I just want to find and follow people who are interesting and who dare to be different and are able to do it in such a way that takes me by surprise from time to time…Not asking for that much, am I. :)

        I really appreciate your kind comments, Teresa, and I am very happy and proud to be a follower of yours.

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    • jimplex 6:15 pm on November 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I had no idea I had to do anything else to link my gravitar to my WordPress (and the graphic I’m seeing to the left of what I’m writing makes me feel I still didn’t get it right!) Thanks for the info–I’m going back into the breach now to see if I can fix it!

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    • creekrose 9:35 am on December 11, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      you are funny! thank you for a morning chuckle :)

      Liked by 1 person

    • Jann @ AustinDetails.me 8:34 am on January 7, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      (And don’t even get me started on the inadequacies of the infantile WP reader.) You had me at “If I Can’t Find You.” But your beyond-clever graphics sealed the deal.

      Marketing 101 is beyond many creative souls, and sigh, I’ve tried to help, encourage and model it for years. So too bad for them, makes more room for those of us who do get it. Not that we still don’t try (fruitlessly) to persuade them.

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      • Kurt Brindley 10:38 am on January 7, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        Sounds like there is a Relating to Humans article with a possible follow-on guest post in there somewhere. :) My “pro” tip articles go through an alchemic transformation of sort as they usually begin as a frustration and end a cathartic release. But of course you understand that. Thank you for your kind and humorous comment, Jann. I truly appreciate it.

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  • Kurt Brindley 11:46 am on October 21, 2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: administration, , categories, , , , , , , , , , ,   



    If you include more than a combined fifteen (15) categories and tags in a post, the post will not show up in the WordPress Reader.

    (Which is (or should be) every blogger’s worst nightmare since it essentially means the post is cast without regard unto the inescapable dark demented depths of the Place of the Unknown.)




    And I bet you thought I couldn’t do it.

    Am I right?






    What are you looking for?

    I said I was done.

    Done like the setting sun…

  • Kurt Brindley 10:33 pm on October 19, 2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , , , , , pedantry, , , , , ,   



    EXHIBIT #A - Click to Enlarge

    EXHIBIT #A – Click to Enlarge




    Um…excuse me, but, before you leave there’s just one more thing I need to say…

    I know, I know…I said I was done, but I just remembered something that, well, it’s kinda important and relevant to the above QUICK TIP…

    In fact, it just might make it obsolete soon…

    Because it seems to me that we are right smack dab in the middle of some evil apocalyptic transition from the wonderful and stylish and user friendly “old” format, the one I described in the exceedingly quick QUICK TIP above.

    No, no, we’re done with that tip so the rambling that’s going on now shouldn’t count against it.


    Well, okay, you have a point. You’re right, regardless how we attribute this time we’re having together, it is, right now, right as your eyes warily flow over these rant-like words, eating hungrily away at the time you have remaining on this rock of a roll of a planet.

    I got it.

    Let me just say this final bit and I’ll let you go…


    So like I was saying, it seems that the WP team, the team that I thought loved us so dearly, is in the slow painful process of migrating us to a new layout, a not-so-pretty geeky looking layout that is clunky, and un-user friendly, and, as far as I can tell, has no handy dandy universal Search Bar, which, of course, if you’re anything like me, leaves us frustrated and a little panicky from having to figure out where the heck the Search Bar is for each site we visit.


    Pure evil.

    I present to you EXHIBIT #2:

    EXHIBIT #2 - Click to Enlarge

    EXHIBIT #2 – Click to Enlarge

    That exhibit of an oncoming disaster should really be curdling your wheys right about now…if you’re anything like me.

    And don’t even get me started on WP’s There’s now an easier way to create on WordPress.com! Switch to the improved posting experience garbage.

    What the heck is that mess?

    I tried using that and it made me so mad I broke three brand new, hadn’t even been sharpened yet, pencils over my knee! At once!!

    I don’t know what’s going on over at WP’s Automattic team.

    I really did believe that they loved us.

    Or…maybe Google is behind this…

    You know, ever since they abandoned their “Do No Evil” slogan after making their first grazillion, I wouldn’t put anything past them…

    Never know…



    I’m done…

    Thank you for letting me release that.

    I feel much better now.

    The only problem is…

    I’m not sure how to end this…what?

    QUICK TIP addendum?

    I don’t know how to do what all the crafty writers do…

    You know…bring everything full circle and leave us all with a witty, call to action, inspiration of a conclusion.




    So, I guess I’ll just say…so long?

    So long then…

    Oh yeah!

    One last thing before you go…

    I just gotta say, I don’t know who it was who raided my account and sprayed the anarchic graffiti all over the place, but I’m more than a little miffed about it!

    And, I tell ya, that is definitely not my facial hair!

    And I tell you what, again…

    I think I have a pretty good idea just who might have been behind this violation of both the sanctity and purity of my site, as well as my artistic sensibilities and integrity…


    I’m pretty sure it’s the disgruntled smoker who unbelievably (and, I’ll be honest, quite awesomely) trolled my innocent little ol’ poem for the children. No, really…dude trolled my “Filthy, Nasty Butts” poem. I encourage you to witness for your own pleasure and bewilderment his magical troll-like advice for me by clicking right here. (and while there, give him some Love by clicking the “Like” star for his comment…I pretty sure he needs some)
    [“PRO” TIP #2 IS GERMANE…]



    • M-R 10:43 pm on October 19, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      HILARIOUS !!! – right up my alley, this kind of nonsense. :-D
      But the little magnifier is still there when you visit a site; it’s just not there if you go to any of WordPress’ … ahh … internal pages. And the one you showed us has an aqua bar, so it’s an internal page !

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    • Joshua M Swenson 12:03 am on October 20, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Great advice! Thanks for sharing!

      Liked by 1 person

  • Kurt Brindley 8:54 am on October 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Adam Levine, , Blake Shelton, , , , , , , The Voice, , , ,   



    Looking for a way to stay socially engaged with your desperate fans (i.e., family and friends) without having to tab out of your WordPress edit box for fear of losing your poetic mojo?

    Well…how about using your Site Title’s tagline as a status update?

    I know, right…

    For example, while I was writing this post I also had one eye on the television — it’s Tuesday, which of course means, The Voice.

    But I really really wanted to get this “Pro” Tip out to my desperate fans (yes, yes, you’re right…i.e., my family and friends).

    And I really really also wanted to remind my mother (who, no lie*, refreshes this site at least once every 5 minutes to see if I’ve released yet another Nobel Prize-worthy post (which to her, of course, is everything I write, which, of course, also means this post that you’re now reading is serious literary genius…to Mom) to watch The Voice because she missed it last week, which meant she had to facebook me like crazy to find out in excruciating detail exactly what silly antics silly Adam and silly Blake were up. Which meant, of course, I had to tab out to facebook to give her the lengthy lowdown in excruciating lengthy lowdown detail via facebook’s less-than-user-friendly messenger chat thingy.

    Which, of course, meant…I wasn’t writing.

    Well…I was writing to Mom, but you know what I mean…

    I wasn’t writing writing.

    But tonight…

    No worries whatsoever.

    Because tonight, I simply updated my Site Title’s tagline to read: Busy watching The Voice…Mom!

    And life was good…

    Mom saw my tagline status update right upon the completion of her 20:00 hour page refresh of my site and was able to watch for herself all the silly antics silly Adam and silly Blake were up to.

    And I got to keep one eye on the television (okay, I admit it…I kinda have a bit of man crush on those guys just like everyone else) while my fingers were busy plucking the literary magic (at least by Mom’s measure) out of the keyboard.

    Everyone’s happy…

    I’m happy…

    All my desperate fan’s are happy…

    And, most importantly, Mom is happy (with visions of silly Adam and silly Blake dancing in her head (yeah, I better not take that illustration any further)).

    So if you want to keep both the Writing Gods and your Desperate Fans happy at the same time…

    Go to your Dashboard, click on Appearance, then click on Customize. You then will see a blue bar with a set of options take over the extreme right side of your screen. You’ll need to plow your cursor on over to the options in blue and click on Site Title. A black window will swing out where you can input both your Site Title and a Tagline. All you have to do now is fill that Tagline in with your current status (recommend keeping it both witty and pithy), click Save, and then click X and…

    Just like that, you have your very own WordPress Status Update.

    All without every having to tab away from your poetic mojo.

    I know, right…

    (Yes, I know there are other, potentially simpler, ways to update the tagline, but I wanted to leave us something to discuss in the Comments afterwards.)

    And now all your desperate fans will always know what their most favorite Author in the world is doing.

    And they will all love you forever*.

    And they will all flock to Amazon to buy all of your books*.

    Even that bizarre manifesto that started out as an email chain letter*.

    And for each book they buy they all will write multitudes of raving five-star reviews*.

    And all this magic will come about all because of the humble yet oh so versatile friendly little Tagline.

    Thank you, Tagline.

    Thank you, indeed.


    *it’s a lie


    What’s in your tagline?


    • Laura L. 11:26 pm on October 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      :::blink::: And I thought I had computer time management issues… Thank you KB for making me feel better about myself. :D Maybe an award winning self-help book in your future?

      Liked by 1 person

    • ms.raichu 11:34 pm on October 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      This is one ‘pro’ tip… MOMs! haha!

      Liked by 2 people

    • Laine Jensen 11:37 pm on October 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      What a great idea!

      Liked by 1 person

    • Tracy Meyerhofer 12:03 am on October 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Hilarious and informational… Tell your Mom, that I’ve got a crush on them too. 😉 Loved it!

      Liked by 2 people

    • charlypriest 2:01 am on October 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Thank´s for the tip, I´ll have to check it out.
      Writing to mom…..that´s probably one of the worst and most hazardous writing for me, still she scares the crap out of me!

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      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 12:51 pm on October 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Well, isn’t that the beauty of fiction…of being a creative writer, charlypriest? We can take those fears and whip them into submission with our pens and then laugh at them from the safety on high (and I am referring to your fears here…not your mom (: )

        And, I hope you noticed all the *asterisks in the tip/story…they are there for a distinct purpose.


        • charlypriest 12:57 pm on October 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

          What are you talking about I have no fears,I´m like superman but without a cape. But the beauty of writing fiction….yes sir you take what you´re feeling what you know and twist it bend it make fun with it or sad with it whatever you want. Creativity is the name of the game and I´m loving this ride. And no I did not notice the asterisks, so now I´ll have to go back and see what you men by “being there for a distinct purpose”, you´re making me work now.

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          • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 1:02 pm on October 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

            Apologies. It was just a poor attempt, obviously, by me to write a witty and interesting response to your witting and interesting comment, Writing to mom…..that´s probably one of the worst and most hazardous writing for me, still she scares the crap out of me!

            And apologies for the extra work…

            Enjoying the banter, charlypriest. Thanks for taking the time to participate.


        • charlypriest 12:58 pm on October 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

          o.k, read it, now got it.

          Liked by 1 person

    • First Night Design 7:06 am on October 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Brilliant idea!

      Liked by 1 person

    • jmgriz 7:13 am on October 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Love this, and love your writing wit. Thanks for the follow as well! :)

      Liked by 1 person

    • Erin Darby Herrington 10:10 am on October 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Funny funny. I often work with one eye on The Voice as well. I love the shenanigans between Adam and Blake!

      Liked by 1 person

    • donnamarie 4:22 pm on October 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Thanks for the tip! I’m relatively new to WordPress and would never have thought of that. Also, glad you liked my blog and I’m enjoying following yours.

      Liked by 1 person

      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 12:53 pm on October 16, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Hey, that’s great, donnamarie. Glad you found it useful. I had fun writing it. And welcome to the wonderful and wacky world of WordPress. It’s a great community.

        Liked by 1 person

  • Kurt Brindley 8:00 am on October 9, 2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , Hugh Howey, , , JA Konrath, , , publishing advice, publishing tips, , ,   


    My advice is for you is to read, study, and, for best results, memorize word for word everything that Hugh Howey and JA Konrath have ever written and spoken and (if you can find a hack into their brain) thought about regarding the art and business of Indie Writing and Publishing. There are other worthy experts out there, but you might as well focus on and learn from the road-tested best. And that would be these two Super Pro Indie Authors.

    That’s it.

    See, I told you the advice was simple.

    Now the follow through…yeah, well, not so much.

    But no one ever said all this stuff was easy.

    And if it were…then what fun would that be?

    Write On, Writer!


    • Penticular 9:10 am on October 9, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Ok , Thank You, I’ll give it a serious try. Thanks Again, David

      Liked by 2 people

    • Maria Matthews 9:10 am on October 9, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      You have a distinct site here different from others. I am curious about how you got your books published as in the road you took, editors etc. I will be back to check out more as time goes on. Thank you for visiting my site

      Liked by 2 people

    • ushaveera68 10:04 am on October 9, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Thanks for the info. Will look them up. :)
      Cheers n tc.

      Liked by 1 person

    • Thomas Weaver 1:29 pm on October 9, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Since even Howey doesn’t know how Howey got so successful (he has said so), I don’t see who following his advice is any guarantee for success. What he did worked for him, obviously, but that doesn’t mean it will work for everyone.

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      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 1:45 pm on October 9, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Good point, Thomas. Success is never guaranteed, ever, and especially by me. But I do guarantee that if someone follows the advice in this post they’ll have all the information they need to propel themselves speedily on the road to success.

        Got any writers, or anyone else for that matter, you recommend we should follow who will guarantee our success?

        Or at least enhance our betterment as writers?


  • Kurt Brindley 2:22 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , , , , , , Law of Atrraction, , , , , ,   



    And by me I mean us.

    At least those of us who learned as children that Sticks and Stones Can Break Our Bones But Words Can Never Hurt Us…

    Okay, maybe sometimes words can hurt but that is not the point.

    Okay, maybe that is the point but so what?

    We’re Writers, right?

    And if you’re not a Writer (which has to be just about impossible if you are posting stuff online) then you’re a Poet or an Artist or some kind of Creator who turns dreams into magical data streams for the world to observe and appreciate.

    And as Creators, aren’t we the ones who are supposed to be leading the way to the Ideal?

    Aren’t we supposed to be the voice of those who have no voice, or who have no means, or freedom, to express that voice?

    If so, then what are most of you out there afraid of?

    Okay, based upon my exceedingly-less-than-scientific observations, this post should either offend or illuminate just about every WordPress Content Creator, i.e., blogger, out there.

    And my gut (where my science is explored and calculated) is telling me that most of you will mostly be in the “offend” camp.

    I would say easily ninety-percent of the comments I leave in response to a thought provoking post have to first be approved or moderated by the site’s Creator before they are published.

    Why would you, you the Writer and/or Poet and/or Artist, you the Creator, why would you do that?

    What are you afraid of?


    Are you getting so many responses to your posts that the evil hoards of Trolls have taken up arms (Words) against you in an evil effort to suppress your magic and genius?

    Probably not.

    But if you are, congratulations are in order.

    To me, the evil Trolls are just a sign that you made it. You are a success.

    Your voice is being heard.

    And that is a good thing.

    And we all know, because Ms Yin and Mr Yang tell us so, that with the good comes the bad.

    In all honestly, I can’t wait until the Trolls come after me.

    Bring it.


    You know what I see whenever, which is almost always, I get that little message that says my comment has to first be approved/moderated?

    I see fear.

    I see you hiding in the shadows cast by the glow of the light of your computer screen.

    I see you shaking in your pajamas, afraid of what someone might say in response to your artistic genius.



    Yeah, maybe.

    But while you are busy screening and redacting all the comments you are receiving, there are people all around the world fighting, and dying, to be heard.

    To have a voice.

    To not be moderated.

    What, you think I’m being a little melodramatic?

    You think it doesn’t matter whether or not you screen your comments.

    If so, then I think you are being very, very (adverbs…yeah, I know) naive.

    Law of Attraction, my little insecure genius…


    At a minimum, first impressions matter.

    What is one to think of you when their first interaction with you involves you first having to do a security check on them?

    Trust issues, is what I think.

    But then again, some of you may not even know that you are the Putin of your very own Police State.

    You may be suppressing freedom and free speech literally (yes I said literally…because I mean it!) around the globe and not even know it.

    So, for all the Freedom and Free Speech Lovers around the world (of WordPress), here is all you have to do to fight back against the evil forces of oppression:

    Go to your Dashboard, click on Settings, click on Discussion, and then please, please, please, if checked, uncheck the Comment must be manually approved and Comment author must have a previously approved comment boxes.

    Do it and I guarantee you will feel empowered knowing that you are not afraid of all the evil forces that are out there just waiting for the right time to attack.

    And if you are afraid, it’s okay.

    We all are to some degree.

    Because, let’s face it, Words really can hurt.

    And that’s a little scary.

    But when the attack comes, and it will, be ready for it by building up your arsenal of creativity now.

    Rise Up! to the challenge.

    Work like a possessed ninja on your Writing and/or your Poeting and/or Arting skills.

    Use The Force.

    Be the Creation.

    And when the attack comes, destroy it with Creativity and Expression!

    And if that doesn’t work, you ask.

    Fuck it…just delete it.

    Like the Boss Moderator that you are.

    Power To The Putin

    • Laura L. 2:34 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I liked your post, because it was well written and an honest stance. I do require moderation on my blog, but not for any of the reasons you state. I do it for spam. In other blogs I have had unmoderated comment opened up an annoying, time consuming bunch of spam. Sure, spam can be deleted, it is just a pain. Sites that are cluttered with spam look like the owners don’t care about their sites.

      I have no fear of disagreement. I’ve looked for constructive criticism. I have no fear of telling an asshole they are an asshole, politely or not.

      For over three years I was trolled online by my own personal troll, too. It is a pain in the ass.

      One thing that doesn’t appear to work on my blog, though, and I do need to look into it, is that supposedly you can moderate once and if you approve the author you shouldn’t have to approve any more. That function doesn’t seem to be working.

      I found your views to be interesting and thought-provoking enough to consider taking the moderation off. But as soon as the spam starts flowing in, I’d change it back.

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      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 4:04 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        You know, I didn’t even think about the spam when writing this and probably should have. The reason I didn’t think about it probably is because I rarely get any. Every once in a blue moon I do on a couple of my other sites…but not here…not yet, anyway.

        I’m glad you’re taking on the trolls. For the most part they’re nothing but bullies and bullies tend to fall apart when someone pushes back.

        Thanks for taking the time to comment, the good feedback, and the nice comments.


      • Lynne McAennyl 9:55 pm on January 23, 2017 Permalink | Reply

        Totally “get it”, Laura.


    • elmeltone 2:38 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Kurt, thank you for telling me how to turn off the comment moderator. Being fairly new to WordPress, moderating comments was set as a default on the Blog To Oblivion. My blog has now been liberated from my Putinesque comment moderation. Cheers.

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      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 4:07 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Good. I’m glad the post was useful to you because, regardless of all the trolls and free speech stuff surrounding/suffocating it, it is meant as a helpful blogging tip.

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    • R. Todd 3:04 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I, as with Laura, moderate mine due to the spam aspect. If you have something negative to say, I’ll approve it. It is after all only considerate due to you having spent the time reading my commentary that I pass along yours, whether I agree or not.

      I have set it so that once I approve a comment from someone, it allows them to post again without moderation. I prefer that method because instead of a random mass of nameless people, I get a chance to peruse the works of the new commentator (not that I get so many people reading my blog, but.. hey, it could happen)

      Other then that, I totally understand where you are coming from.

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    • ettemeyer 3:55 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      How very contrarian of you. Good on you for advocating the marketplace of ideas and that free speech should be tolerated. I’m all for it in the public sphere. However, WordPress isn’t a public forum, and I don’t mind having my comments moderated. For me, free speech doesn’t absolve me of responsibility for what I say. Not everyone shares this view, and that’s okay: it’s their blog space. The blogger/creator has a right to be the gatekeeper of his/her own space. They decide whether to engage and if commentary is conducive to their overall vision of their blog. Just as I have a right to unfollow a blog if I feel it’s not worth my time.

      But, you’re right that we can always use the delete button. However, I need as many brain cells as I can get just to breathe some days – why waste creative time and energy on spam and trolls? I’m a bad Trollhunter, and I’ve failed your challenge :-(

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      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 4:20 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        I’ll take it that you mean “contrarian” in a good way, right? Either way…I’m not sure I follow you when you say “.WordPress isn’t a public forum…” It isn’t? Do you have your site set to private? Then if so, this post should not apply to you, as that would be the ultimate gatekeeping.

        But yeah, I agree, we as the Site Masters control the destiny of our sites. I certainly cannot make anyone do anything online, but I sure can advocate for the marketplace of ideas and free speech, as you so poetically described it. And I surely will. :)

        Thanks for taking the time to comment.

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        • ettemeyer 4:38 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply

          No, contrarian (did I misspell that, sheesh low brain cells) in a good way to spark debate.

          And I meant public forum in the strict sense that the government/people own it; and hence, have a public platform for freedom of assembly, debate and speech without fear of government censorship (at here in the US). From what I understand, WordPress is a private organization with rules and regulations/terms of service you have to follow even if your blog is “free.”

          Anyway, thanks for letting us comment.

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    • eclecticalli 4:36 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I know the spam aspect has already been brought up (one of the reason’s I’ve decided to moderate), but the other is purely self-serving. If I have to approve a comment it means I have to take the moment to read it, and therefore might as well just take the moment (as well) to respond to it. It’s a built in reminder to myself that I want to respond to the comments. Otherwise I’m likely to see that they are there, and then forget in the blur of the day that I had intended to read and respond. All non-spam (and non-duplicate) posts get approved. And if I “edit” a post for any reason (really, they give us such power!) I will mention in my response that I have done so, and why.
      My two cents :)

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    • wifemothersurvivor 7:00 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I’m with eclecticalli :) I have it set to only having to be approved once. I also do that so that when my ADD kicks in, I’ll still have an alert for new comments.

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    • john flanagan 9:11 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      i enjoyed your post very much and in principle you are right. Spam is a pain is the arse and unfortunately are comments that hurl personal abuse at the blogger and have nothing to do with the post – i’ve had a share of those and i’m not going to tolerate them.
      Thank you for sharing this.

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      • unsaintly 9:57 pm on October 7, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Hello Kurt!
        I love this post. My reasons for moderating align with the previous ones posted. I’d been stalked for a long time to an almost criminal degree. So that added to my decision to moderate comments. I don’t need the added stress of babysitting infantile, online trolls with serious mental issues (no seriously, they have mental issues) who have no jobs and take pleasure in tormenting me. I’d rather allow thought provoking debate, even if they disagree with my views.

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        • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 12:05 am on October 8, 2014 Permalink | Reply

          Hello unsaintly. Well, I’ll have to wait and see how it goes. To see what it’s really like when the Trolls attack. As of yet, I don’t have the “problem” of having so many comments to wade through that I can’t manage it.

          And it may already be showing through…but I kinda like a wee bit o’ confrontation.

          Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. Really appreciate it.


      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 12:08 am on October 8, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Hey john, I agree. I, too, am intolerant towards intolerants.

        Thanks for stopping by and for taking the time to read and comment.

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    • intuitivemeditation 11:40 pm on October 9, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      From my experience, the best way to deal with bullies is to give them no chance to be heard. It defeats their entire purpose. That’s different than someone disagreeing with me; that I can handle. So … Keeping it on moderate. But I ain’t skeered.

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      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 9:12 am on October 10, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Well, like I said a bit earlier, until I get the high volumes of comments you must be receiving, I’ll have to wait and see.

        I don’t want to put bars on the window until I am actually scared.

        Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts, intuitivemeditation.


    • sarahthespaz 6:06 pm on October 29, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Guilty! I totally blog in my pajamas! I really love your blog- a lot of your “isms” remind me of my retired AF dad: humor and snark with a whole heap of fun. Thank you for this post-especially because I didn’t even know that setting was a thing, let alone how to correct it.

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      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 8:41 pm on October 29, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Geez, sarahthespaz, thank you very much for leaving such a kind and humorous comment for me. It really means a lot to me to hear that you are enjoying this blog. And because you’re so nice, I will not give your dad a hard time for joining the AF instead of the military. :) TELL DAD I AM JUST JOKING! But, I’m sure he understands since that’s the typical inter-service way of how we express our gratitude toward for each other.

        Thanks again, sarahthespaz. Stay both forever cool and forever pajama’d…


    • arabpikachu4wp 5:45 pm on November 9, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I happen to be a Moderator for my 3 blogs but only do this to make sure spam doesn’t flood my blog (hope you can respect me for that).

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    • Amy 11:24 am on February 13, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      You make some very good points and I may get the courage to take the moderator off. I like getting the e-mail prompt when I get a comment, and responding back. It seems like most of my spam is filtered out into a spam box, so I am not sure if taking off the moderator button would change that. I don’t get that many comments or views, so I probably need to step up my game so I have something to actually worry about :). Thanks!

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      • Kurt Brindley 11:28 am on February 13, 2015 Permalink | Reply

        And the very few spam bots that do get through the filter often leave interesting comments of which I usually respond to. :)

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    • Rose Red 9:28 pm on February 17, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      I am starting to understand your view, but not the emotion behind it. I kind of shrug at moderated blogs. I don’t recall having any of my comments un- approved. But then I don’t go back to look either, that’s like looking at tissue after

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    • Spyros 2:21 pm on October 12, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      I get mostly afraid of what I could do with my words. And secondarily, with reactions that could occur. I think the second wouldn’t occur without the first. ;)

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    • gdicm 12:17 pm on October 13, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Like muslims complain if their children are subjected to a Bible in school, they also moderate the internet. Talk about stacking the words in their favor. They complain if any children are shown a Bible. “Like you say ” , , , , , words will never hurt me.”

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    • Lynne McAennyl 9:53 pm on January 23, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      Hi Kurt. I accept you have a good point re moderating comments, where you mean (by ‘moderating’) not allowing them to be seen.
      I have mine set just as you ask us to not do. I moderate only a person’s first comment – and Only because I don’t want to be trolled by shills promoting their “skills” in writing My content! For a Fee, of course. On a different blog, for which I did not moderate, I found for one post alone, eight shills commenting and re-commenting to sell their service.
      My way stops them coming back.
      But, one thing you Have made me decide is…I Must mention that Only the first comment will be moderated. So thanks for that call to action.

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    • Pleasant Street 10:31 pm on January 23, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      I ended up thinking it over and removing moderate from my blog comments ^_^
      My that was a while ago. Hope you are well.

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  • Kurt Brindley 12:56 pm on October 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply
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    Well, I guarantee that you will get more “Likes” from me, at least.

    And that is the collective “you,” btw.

    Look, I love, love, love to read.

    And I especially love to read Indie Authors, Indie Poets, Indie…

    Well, let’s just say you had me at “Indie.”

    Which is why I believe WordPress is the best invention since the remote control.

    WordPress is an organic eruption of creativity and expression.

    WordPress is Indie Heaven.

    If I could marry WordPress, I would…among other things.

    In fact, there is so much Indie creativity and expression erupting from WordPress that it is impossible to gather it all in.

    That is why the WordPress Reader is so critical to me and my endeavor to read and appreciate as many Indie Writers and Creators as I possible can.

    I pretty much live in that Reader.

    In fact, you could just about call me a WordPress Reader agoraphobic.

    I really get a bit antsy when someone, or something, tries to prompt me away from it.

    So, if you are one of those creators who think you are going to get more page views by only showing a summary of your post in the Reader so we’ll click out of it to your website, well, I’m here to tell you, chances are you probably won’t.

    At least not by me.


    Hear me when I say that I really want to both like and “Like” what you have created. And while I may not always like your message and/or content, I will just about always like and “Like” the effort.

    As you well know, as is evidenced by your own sweat equity, Writing and Drawing and Poeting ain’t always easy.

    It takes effort, and I like effort…especially when it’s coming from others.

    But I am not going to like or “Like” something unless I read it, all of it, with my own eyes.

    Now I’m sure some so-called pro bloggers will “Like” just about anything, whether they like it or not, and whether they read it or not.

    But that’s not me.

    I’m here for the content and the relationship building that quality content generates.

    But if you’re trying to drag me away from my Reader then…let me tell ya, you better have a really, really good hook of a title and some powerful content in that Reader summary.

    It happens sometimes.

    And I really look forward to those times when it does.

    But, in all honesty, it doesn’t happen nearly enough.

    So, help me help you help me by going to your Dashboard, then click on your Settings, then click on Reader, and then where it says For each article in a feed, show, please, please, please click on the Full text radio button.

    If you do, the Writing Gods will smile on you.

    And so will I.

    I guarantee it…

    Like/”Like” it or not.

    • K.A. Renninger 1:37 pm on October 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Hi, and thank you for checking out and following my blog “About Sketching”. I am intrigued by your writing & poetry. Also viewed one of your YouTube videos, which was inspiring to me as I am always looking for ways to share & market what my own creativity has produced.
      I will follow your advice on the reader settings. Truthfully, I didn’t even realize there was a choice. Thank you!

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      • Kurt Brindley 1:54 pm on October 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        I was going to say something to the effect that many probably aren’t even aware of the settings…but there is a fine line between giving good advice and being an annoying pedant (and I’m always on the verge, if not actually on, the latter) so I didn’t. :)

        Thanks for stopping by. I really enjoy your site.

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    • earth2bellas 2:07 pm on October 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I’m a Reader addict too! Thanks for the settings tip, I had no idea that was an option. (:

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    • mkvecchitto 3:13 pm on October 4, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      As my chef/husband would say, “Heard.” Thanks for the tip. I never thought about that, and when I checked, I had to change my settings. Good tip!

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    • joysofbookworms 9:08 am on October 5, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Thanks for that piece of advice – I hadn’t even realised that there was an option to show the full text! :)

      Liked by 1 person

    • Charles Harmon 3:44 pm on October 5, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Thank you! This has been bothering me too lately. Sometimes (…or most times) I just want to read the post, “Like” it if I do, and continue down my reader. People who only give the summary lose out in that I often just don’t read it

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    • Adriana E - I Can Rise Above 9:35 pm on October 5, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      just started on wordpress and love how organic it is ….it’s so easy to write something and get that instant feedback and connection. love finding good things to read also!

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    • syddent 8:20 pm on October 9, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      For what it’s worth, my blog entries are summaries or information about the chapters and then I have a link to the chapter. I hope I haven’t lost you. I use the blog to tell what is in the chapter and a bit of my thinking during the writing and editing. Should my loyal readers actually try to go to the story, there is also a “home page” for the story I’m writing so people can navigate.

      I don’t put the whole darn chapter in the blog for two reasons. 1) They are too darn long (ok I admit it – I write too much. But the first step to recovery is admitting our powerlessness…) 2) I know a bit about navigation and I publish the stories as pages so dedicated readers (like you…hopefully…someday…maybe…please) will be able to easily find the first chapter without having to scroll through my 50 blog entries.

      But I get your point. These days most people are reading on mobile devices. If you want to be read, it has to fit on the screen of an iPod.

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      • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 12:03 pm on October 10, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Hi syddent,
        Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to share with us your thought provoking comment.

        I guess my response is – If it’s working for you, then that’s all that matters. This “pro” tip is referring to having your posts summarized in the WordPress Reader, not on your site proper. However, I am also a little leery of summary posts even on the site. I’m still pondering over this but I am always (usually?) against anything that will slow down the reader’s ability to get to the complete message the author is trying to convey.

        Now, you’ve also brought up the question about whether an author should blog her/his book or not. Of course, it’s a personal choice – and you can find quite a bit of discussion out there if you look for it – but to give you insight into how I feel about it, I’ll share with you the working draft title of the “pro” tip I’m working on specifically for this topic:



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    • intuitivemeditation 11:51 pm on October 9, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Does this make it look to long? Is this the WordPress reader or some other type of reader. I changed the setting but my concern is that I have written 1000 words plus on my blogs. Will this overwhelm? I don’t want to force myself in people’s faces.

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    • Kurt Brindley ✍ ✄ ✍ 12:17 pm on October 10, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Hello intuitivemedition,
      I’m sorry to say but I’m not sure what your antecedents are for “this” and “it” when you ask, Does this make it look to long?

      As for the length of a post, in this day and age of twitter and the internet sapping our brains of the inability to read long articles, I would have to say the shorter the post the better because, yes, sadly, many readers are overwhelmed by long posts.

      However, if it’s a killer post that slays the reader and draws him/her in and refuses to let him/her go until every word has been read, then length doesn’t matter.

      Write On!


    • Little Flutterbys 2:04 pm on November 8, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      As a newbie here on WordPress, this advice is great – thank you. I want to write something my readers like before they ‘like’ it! lol I will change my settings now :)

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    • neuronsandsalads 3:16 pm on November 11, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Hi Kurt! Just clicked on full text! Great advice. Thanks for being an honest blog community member and reaching out to others. :)

      Liked by 1 person

    • Mallee Stanley 9:41 pm on February 18, 2015 Permalink | Reply

      Thanks for the tip

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